Monday, May 12, 2014

Memoirs and Miracles II

                       Craigslist


I had quite a few reservations about moving out of state, not the least of which was the feeling that I could neither trust nor rely on the man I’d married. But perhaps the greatest fear of all was that “something” might happen when I was away. What if something awful happened and I couldn’t get home? What if I didn’t get to say goodbye? What if I missed out on precious time that could have been spent with my family? “You can’t live your life in fear, Natalie”, he'd said, clearly irritated. I knew that. But it was a fear of something I couldn’t describe- something dark and sinister that I could discern, yet was unable to name.

He sold SO many things on Craigslist—my things—without asking or telling me. Craigslist has been a source of much pain, yet also, ironically, through Craigslist, God provided.

We lived in Tyler at the time, and we needed a coffee table. He found one on Craigslist and I was leery (this was BEFORE the Craigslist killer thing!!!); Meeting people you didn’t know, in places that were unfamiliar, to buy a product with no guarantee…What kind of weird people would want to do that?  It all just sounded “off” to me. But what do I know? Needless to say, we ended up at the home of a lovely, NORMAL family…and we bought their coffee table.

We stayed and chatted with them for quite a while- we were new to town, newly married, newly pregnant; they had been married for a while and had school age children. They were home schooling their children and I had been home schooled. We were looking for a church and they went to a great one—and we ended up attending that church while we lived in Tyler and finding a wonderful group of friends. All because of a coffee table on Craigslist.

Fast forward to the following spring when he decided we would move to Colorado. We posted some of our furniture on Craigslist (we would buy new stuff when we got there he said). A young, single guy bought our dresser and bed frame. Somehow, small talk revealed he had just moved from Denver, and he had friends there who were helping to start a church. I wrote down the church name and address.

Our first Sunday in Denver was Easter. I insisted on attending Sunday morning service regardless of how exhausted we were from moving and unpacking. We visited the church that the young man recommended.

The service started and immediately, I realized that this was a different kind of church. I was raised Baptist- clapping and raising your hands were about as expressive as we got- and sometimes even that was pushing it.  These people were jumping up and down, dancing, and all manner of things. “It’s just ONE Sunday,” I told myself. “At least we are in church.” At the end of the service, the pastor announced they would be having a raffle; each family was to write the names of all present family members (regardless of age) on a ticket. They began to draw names and announce winners. You can imagine our shock when we heard them call out the name of our five-month-old daughter, winner of a $3500 travel voucher through Triple A Travel.

That travel voucher allowed my mom and dad to come visit us in Colorado for a week at the end of May. My dad passed away unexpectedly three months later. It was the last time I saw my father alive.


So again, looking back, I see God in the details. Would I rather have stayed in Texas and spent more time with my family? Would I rather my dad’s life been spared? Should I not believe in God because He didn’t follow my views on how life should be? I remember standing outside our apartment as my parents drove away, thinking, “This might be the last time I see him”. And in that moment, though the fear and sorrow were almost overwhelming, I had a feeling of such thankfulness. I didn't know it then, but God gave me a week. God gave me memories. God gave me photographs. God used something that Jonathan used for evil, to give me something good—Time with my daddy that I wouldn’t have had otherwise. God used Craigslist.  


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